The Games We Play

The Games We Play

I woke up thinking about

the 12.23.17 Wilkes Barre Healing piece

I posted yesterday.

I felt I needed to say

a bit more about it.

I know the blaming or burying

game we play

doesn’t solve grief for us.

We can blame ourselves

as much as we want

all we are doing

is adding more energy to it.

Yes, the energy of condemning ourselves

for something we had no control over

just adds to it.

I also know the burying game

doesn’t work either.

There is an emotional energy with it

that needs to be released.

Burying grief or any other strong emotion

doesn’t work

because it never addresses

the energy of said emotion.

I actually appreciate the act of crying

it is a physical release of energy

 associated with whatever you cry about.

Now when it happens

I mentally tell myself

to really cry it out,

let all the energy of it out.

It’s funny especially as a male

I felt I was supposed to bury hurt,

I was supposed to blame myself

when I got hurt for letting it happen,

I was supposed to shut down

my crying response

because it wasn't "manly."

Now I feel all of these

are counterproductive

they don’t allow you

to diffuse the energy of grief

they bottle it up inside you instead.

Then it winds up finding its way

back to the surface

sometimes years later.

Why?

Because you never dealt

with releasing it

or letting go of it.

You’re hanging on

in this vain attempt

that somehow that makes it better.

It doesn’t.

Letting go of those emotions

allows the love that was there

to remain in your memories

without the attachment to the energy

of how painful the loss was.

For me, you need to lose the energy

of the grief or anger or remorse or blame

or whatever it is that so pains you

before you can truly heal yourself.

Then you can allow the love

and the beauty of the relationship

to see daylight again

and to experience the whole reason

of why you grieved so deeply;

it was because you Loved So Deeply.

Let go of the blame and burying energies

or whatever they were for you

and let the love you so deeply held

for them see the light of day again.

Let that smile

that washed across your face

when you saw them bloom again.

Let the loving energy of the one you so loved

blossom in your life once again.

Memories can be powerful reminders

of the very love you shared

and why they meant so very much to you.

Then when those memories come again

that loving smile you had for them

will bloom again.

That loving energy you had for them

will express again

and warm your heart.

That love you had for them

will wash over you

with a gladness

that you’ve welcomed

it back into your life.

You’ve welcomed their love

back into your life.

All My Love Always, Keith